Nights Like This

It is common knowledge that women are the queens of mood swings. But I invite everyone to take a good long look at men. While their mood swings may not be as dramatic or as predictable as time, they are sometimes way more annoying than a woman's simply because they aren't accustomed to them. They don't know how to handle them. And they definitely tend to over react.
After the long talk "he" and I had a few weeks ago things have been fairly good between us. It isn't perfect for so many obvious reasons, but for our given situation things are tolerable. Until tonight.
He called to check in like he does most evenings. He asked me about my day, I asked him about his. We made small talk about work and the people we encounter. He mentioned taking some time off. I told him not to use it all up - we still have our trip to the Bahamas to plan for. He kinda laughed and said, "I'm not going to the Bahamas, man." I asked him what he meant. He said he'd already been there and wasn't going back. I told him I was counting on him to go with me. Who else would I take? He said, "Why don't you take Tyson?" I told him I didn't want to take Tyson, I wanted to take him. He then says, "Don't go getting all whiney on me, now." That pissed me off. I wasn't getting whiney. He'd already told me before he'd go with me. We had 18 months to plan for it. I reminded him of that and he said, "Well, we'll see." I said, "I guess that means I better find someone else to go then." He kinda huffed a little then changed the subject.
Just because the subject turned to something that would require just a smidge of commitment it wasn't something he wanted to discuss.
I had asked him if we could get together for dinner this week. He said yeah, maybe Tuesday. I told him if we had dinner Tuesday, he should know there would be no "dessert." That didn't set well with him. I asked what exactly he wanted me to do about it - it's not like I WANT my monthly visit. It happens. We just have to go with it. I told him he shouldn't schedule our time together so far apart.
And this is what pissed me off. It's all about the sex. When he wants, where he wants, how he wants. And I know a lot of that is because his ex never wanted it - ever. But damn. There are 2 of us in this, and nights like this make me want to just jump ship completely. I'm being patient. I've given him his space and time. I'm allowing him to call the shots. But give me something. Nights like this - I want to throw in the towel. Nights like this I wonder where that sweet man is that I fell for.